FREE FROM THE PATTERNwith Trey Malicoat, M.S.

REFLECTION & PRACTICE

Whose rule are you living by?

Notice an expectation you carry and ask whether you still want it to guide your life.

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Some expectations become so familiar that we stop asking where they came from. This exercise invites you to examine one everyday rule.

Try this gently

  1. Choose a mild, recent frustration. Write down the rule behind it, such as “I must always be useful” or “Everyone must approve of my decision.”
  2. Ask where you first remember hearing or learning that rule. It is fine if you do not know.
  3. Notice what the rule helps you protect and what following it costs you.
  4. Try a more flexible statement: “I value being helpful, and I can also make room for my needs.”
  5. Choose one small, safe action that reflects the more flexible statement.

A question to carry

What would I choose if I did not have to earn my worth through this rule?

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YOUR NEXT CHAPTER

You don’t have to have
all the words yet.

Tell me who you are, what feels familiar, and what you want to change. We can begin there.

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